Marriage Counseling
Couples Counseling
Premarital Counseling

Conflict and challenges exist in every intimate relationship. While many couples can identify their contentious issues, they are often unable to resolve them. And despite their best intentions, they continue to repeat the same patterns that result in frustration and pain.

Consider this possibility: The issue may not be the issue! I make this assertion not to minimize interpersonal struggles and serious concerns, but to suggest that: It is the way a couple tries to deal with the issue that becomes the issue. I continually observe this dynamic in therapy sessions involving sex, money and parenting.

When you seek compassionate professional help for your relationship, you are giving it what it needs and deserves. I help couples break free of patterns that no longer serve them. In so doing, together we create the opportunity for you to experience a more conscious, loving relationship.

In marriage and couples counseling I help couples in Denver & Boulder with a variety of issues, including:

improving communication and conflict resolution skills
ending repetitive arguments
learning to resolve ongoing issues that create distance
learning the skills to “fight fairly” - please read my article
enhancing sexual and emotional intimacy
transforming codependent patterns
resolving affairs and rebuilding trust
cultivating compassion and forgiveness
learning to cooperate over money
reducing conflicts over in-laws or previous relationship partners
resolving co-parenting or stepfamily challenges
balancing personal growth and relationship growth
transforming dysfunctional patterns learned in one's family of origin
deepening the couple's spiritual connection

In premarital counseling I help couples prepare for their marriage as well as they prepare for their wedding. Topics frequently include:

improving communication skills
clarifying roles and responsibilities regarding: careers, finances, parenting & in-laws
creating realistic expectations and identifying areas of difference that could be a source of conflict in the future
learning how to develop and deepen the many dimensions of marital intimacy including physical, sexual, emotional, mental and spiritual
creating a shared relationship vision